Monday, 16 June 2014

Relationship Tip of The Day: If you have to beg someone to be in your life.......


Staying in a relationship where you are not well appreciated is one of the worst things that can happen. Likewise, begging your partner to love you when he/she has decided to stop is unimaginable.

If your fiancé/fiancée would not willingly stay in your life, the last thing you should do is beg him/her to stay.

If you beg them to stay today (while you are still pretty, handsome and bubbly) and you eventually get married, what gives you the assurance that they won't decide to opt out again when you have become pre-occupied with other things like; career, child-bearing, housekeeping etc.?

We all know that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Would you not rather let them go now than after you've had children or after you have built your life all around them? 

A person who is worth walking down the aisle with is someone who wants to get married as if their life depends on it. Keep this at the back of your mind and let it guide you in deciding who to spend the rest of your life with.

Remember, "If you have to beg someone to be in your life, they don't belong there".

 

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is actually very very true. I indirectly manipulated my husband into getting married to me... had to get pregnant for him wen i noticed he was going to dump me. Now i am regretting itevery day. that is the worst mistake of my life

Anonymous said...

My boyfriend is fond of threatening to leave me bcos he knows I'll beg him to stay no matter what. He especially does this weneva he wants to have sex with me. Out of fear of losing him I allow him anytime he threatens to leave me. But I don't know for how long I can keep on doing this. A friend of mine told me he's merely using me and that very soon he would get his fill and leave me. BO, I love this guy and I feel better begging him to stay with me than to even think of living a day without him. BO, Please advise me on what to do

Bukola Oyetunji said...

For my advice to Anon 06:44:00 check http://www.bukolaoyetunji.blogspot.com/2014/06/dear-bob-readers-my-boyfriend-is-fond.html