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Monday, 24 March 2014

BOB READERS: Pls advise...My fiancé wants me to swear an oath before we can get married!!!


From a reader:
Hello BOB readers, my fiance told me he won't marry me unless I swear oath with him o. He said that is the tradition in his family that I must swear that I will born children for him and that I will never leave him. The most annoying one is that he said I will swear that I will not marry another man even if he dies.

I don't understand this type of tradition o. Please advise because I love him very much and don't want him to leave me. He said he will marry me 3 months after I swear oath with him.

Should I leave him or swear with him? Pls everybody tell me what to do, I am confused.



****** If you are in this woman's shoes what would you do?******
Pls send in your advice- Bukola Oyetunji

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

My dear.. run!!! The devil is always involved in such oaths. He'll try all his best to make sure you break it so that he can punish you.
Run,Run,Run! That man is not the one for you!

Anonymous said...

If he is really your man,he will change his mind. If he refuse to change his mind,then you shuld take permanent leave for gud!a beta man,dat will lov u beta is comin..

Ben said...

What if u swear the oath and he dies almost immediately after the wedding? We've seen such happen. Does that mean u'll be a widow for the rest of ur life?
Pls, think about this very well b4 u do it. Swearing of oath does not guarantee a happy or peaceful marriage. May God help u

Deremi said...

R u dat desperate 2 get married dt u'll enta in2 a covenant wt d devil? Any oath dt u'll swear shld b b4 man n God during ur wedding ceremony in d church (dt's if u're a xtian)

Don't get lured in2 d trap of d devil. Wish u luck

dupsy said...

Madam pls quit d relationship.don't make dat mistake of taking d oat.it will be disastrous

ibklope said...

My dear, a oath with his god...small letter 'g'. OMG! Bondage! D love he has for you is evil! If u are a born again xtian, u wld ve taken to ur heels & not seeking our opinion. "Let ur yea be yea & ur nay be nay" Dats what our Father says.
U don't need his god's oath to get married. Obviously, he has insecurity issues.
There are beta, correct, born again xtian blokes. Renew urself, resist dat devil and meet d son of light.
James 5:12 "But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; LEST YE FALL INTO CONDEMNATION."

Bukola Oyetunji said...

Very good advice Ibklope...

Bukola Oyetunji said...

God loves us too much to stress us with our relationships, we simply need to hand over evrything to him. Thx anon 12:07

Bukola Oyetunji said...

I've also seen such happen, u're blessed for the feedback @Ben

Bukola Oyetunji said...

Hmmnnnn, good point well stated! Thank u very much Deremi

Bukola Oyetunji said...

Thank u Dupsy for sparing time to read thru. Ur feedback is appreciated