Wednesday, 17 September 2014

Relationship Tip of The Day: Emotional can't heal a broken mind.

I find it painful when I talk to women who are in emotionally abusive relationships, and they tell me; 'He abuses me emotionally but I have to endure because I love him'.... (The P&E factor). I wonder which planet they are from...

Like I said as a guest on the Loving and Being Intimate (L.A.B.I) show with Labi Olayori on TV Continental almost 2 weeks ago, you do not have to take any form of abuse from a partner as long as you are not married yet. The best is to walk out of the relationship gallantly. You know my reason for saying this? Emotional abuse escalates eventually and becomes physical abuse. If your partner can say all the mean things to you now that you are still dating or courting, then be prepared for the worst if you eventually get married, .

For a clearer understanding, EMOTIONAL ABUSE is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased.

Staying in a relationship with a partner who has these traits can be unhealthy as well as unsatisfactory. This goes vice-versa. A man in a relationship with a woman who abuses him emotionally also needs to weigh his options and decide very quickly if she is really worth walking down the aisle with.

Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse because it reduces your self worth, it makes you feel inadequate like you are doing something wrong or not doing something right. It makes you question your intelligence even without you knowing it.

Emotional abuse can atimes be worse than physical abuse (depending on the level it has gotten to) because you can heal broken bones, but you can not heal a broken mind (except you go for therapy and it usually takes you determination and time).

Like I always say, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, evaluate it well and please decide on time if that abusive partner is worth spending the rest of your life with.

Your happiness is worth more than money can buy, think clearly and ask yourself if after 10 years into your marriage with that person, you are still gonna be as happy as you want!

Don't get your mind broken....... It takes too much effort to heal!

Wish you all the best....

With love,
Bukola Oyetunji

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